ANALISIS PANDANGAN PEREMPUAN TERHADAP PELAKU PERSELINGKUNGAN PERSFEKTIF HIFZHUN-NAFS
Abstract
ABSTRAK
Perkawinan ialah ikatan lahir batin antara pria dan wanita sebagai suami isteri dengan tujuan membentuk keluarga yang bahagia dan kekal berdasarkan Ketuhanan Yang Maha Esa, faktanya banyak pernikahan yang tidak bahgia karena perselingkuhan yang menyebabkan seseorang harus memilih bertahan atau berpisah, mengkaji dua hal inilah peneliti merumuskan pertanyaan tentang bagaimana pandangan perempuan terhadap pelaku perselingkuhan dianalisis persfektif Hifzhun-Nafs, Metode Penelitian adalah Empiris (lapangan) dengan pendekatan sosiologi hukum. Hasil penelitian pandangan perempuan terhadap pelaku perselingkuhan adalah menerima, memaafkan dan bertahan dengan alasan, anak, ekonomi, gagal pernikahan pertama dan karena ajaran agama. Namun pada implementasinya rumah tangganya tidak bahagia seutuhnya. Sedangkan pandangan perempuan yang menolak pelaku perselingkuhan karena kehilangan kepercayaan, perselingkuhan adalah penyakit yang sulit disembuhkan dan menjaga mental perempuan. Analisis pandangan perempuan yang menerima dan menolak pelaku perselingkuhan persektif hifzhun-nafs yaitu memelihara diri atau Perlindungan terhadap Jiwa. Islam mengatur agar manusia senantiasa dapat menjaga keberlangsungan hidupnya seperti pernikahan yang bertujuan untuk membina keluarga yang bahagia, tenang, nyaman, dan agama melarang segala sesuatu yang dapat mencelakakan atau menganiaya jiwa (tingkat dharuriyah, menerima/menolak demi kemaslahatan bersama dianjurkan dalam kehidupan rumah tangga, tingkat hajjiyah adalah perempuan punya hak menolak/menerima berdasarkan keinginan sendiri (Hifzhun-Nafs), tingkat tahsiniyyah menerima/menolak harus memikirkan kenyamanan diri secara lahir dan bathin).
Kata Kunci. pandangan perempuan, perselingkuhan, hifzhun-Nafs.
ABSTRACT
Marriage is a spiritual and physical bond between a man and a woman as husband and wife with the aim of forming a happy family. In fact, many marriages are unhappy because of infidelity which causes a person to choose to stay or separate. By examining these two things, the researcher formulated a question about how women view perpetrators of infidelity. analyzed from the Hifzhun-Nafs perspective, the research method is empirical (field) with a legal sociology approach. The results of the research show that women's views on perpetrators of infidelity are accepting, forgiving and persisting for reasons, children, economics, failed first marriage and because of religious teachings. However, in its implementation the household was not completely happy. Meanwhile, the view of women who reject perpetrators of infidelity is because they have lost trust, infidelity is a disease that is difficult to cure and protects women's mental health. Analysis of the views of women who accept and reject perpetrators of infidelity from the hifzhun-nafs perspective, namely self-preservation or protection of the soul. Islam regulates that humans can always maintain the continuity of their lives, such as marriage which aims to build a happy, calm, comfortable family, and religion prohibits everything that can harm or abuse the soul (dharuriyah level, accepting/rejecting for the sake of mutual benefit is recommended in domestic life, the hajjiyah level is that women have the right to refuse/accept based on their own wishes (Hifzhun-Nafs), the tahsiniyyah level of accepting/rejecting must think about their physical and spiritual comfort).
Keywords. Hifzhun-nafs, female gaze, infidelity.